yesterday i asked you guys what you thought the difference between loving someone and being in love with somebody was. and i guess it's a thought thats been going through my head constantly since justin asked me a couple of days ago (which is btw, really effing annoying) but anyways i thought i would share my answer. love is usually pure and truly loving someone involves love being unconditional. for example, if your sister broke the t.v, you’d still love her, and in that sense love is also bounding. when you love somebody, you care for their well-being but there is no real necessity for constant communication and/or trust. being in love, on the other hand involves being smitten and taken by the person you are supposedly in love with. it is a type of love, and is passionate, exciting and at times can be intense. when you’re in love with someone, you make the effort to spend as much time as possible with each other and also require a great deal of trust and communication. although, within the context of a romantic relationship, the difference is, well, different. in this sense, being in love is like temporary madness. it erupts, but as it subsides, you find that you have either parted, or you have become so concurrently entwined, that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. and then, at this point, you are left with what true love is. love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, and it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion. that is just what being "in love" is. love itself provides happiness and comfort, even in the hardest, most painful situations. it is the embers of what being in love once was, and this requires both proficiency and patience - and is a wonderful, fortunate accident. i want to swap postcards. please. email me. LOL.